okay we are in High Point Market today and we have been here all week setting up this showroom um a lot of people are asking us what exactly we do here so basically we come to High Point twice a year to set up uh for spring and fall so that we can show all of the new designs and collections.
For the furniture our accessories but also the rugs this is for retailers to come and preview The Collection so they can decide what they want to put in the store so hopefully you'll see a lot of the Magnolia home collections in a store in a town near you but also follow along on my insta story today Magnolia's insta story so you can see a lot of behind the.
Scenes a lot of the fun displays we're putting together but also get a sneak peek of the new collections why do I love renovation so much I love that before and after Story I love the house that is unassuming or that people are like drive by it don't even notice it or it has no potential it's not enough you then go put all the stuff.
Into it and then all of a sudden it becomes this beautiful after moment that hopefully inspires people it's your Cinderella Story the idea that I feel like I found my Lane in unearthing things or or projects that didn't feel like people cared about or didn't see the value in well even the irony you do that with houses and of course we know.
That but back in our early days you would go buy a piece of furniture and do the same thing with this spray paint it bring it back to life you know for sure so there's similar veins in that once you started experimenting with what really you were destined to do those things started really lining up pretty quick but why does that line up it's.
Because I I think I really understand the feeling of showing up and maybe believing hey I'm not enough but wait till I I don't know and so even now as a 44 year old woman I can say after writing this book I feel like this odd Fixer-Upper where it's like not outwardly I'm not talking about my looks I'm talking about my soul and my heart.
And like how I feel about myself sure it's I I got to uncover and unearth pieces that I needed to bring back to life I needed to restore some parts of myself that I knew were valuable and so when you start tying that to what I get to do in real life for my job it's interesting how parallel that is and that that's probably why I find so much.
Meaning in the work I get to do because it starts kind of personally with me and then I get to see that full representation in a project or in a home what I think is crazy though is that we don't I didn't know you as a little boy like there's a whole side of Chip gains that I hear stories about but then when you tell me some stories about how you'd.
Make up stories things like my dad owns American Airlines yes okay exactly and um he worked for American Airlines and a rumor got started yeah without my direct knowledge or or input that he owned American Airlines quote and you didn't correct why would anybody correct that that that's not my fault that they.
Misinterpreted I know so I'm saying what was we never dig in with you with me I'm kind of like I know all my I can kind of name my insecurities I can pay I was just like everybody else so nobody was like why do you have less or more than us but I wanted them to think I lived in a two-story house so I would tell everybody that could not literally.
Direct line of sight see my house because two-story houses are for rich people that's where the money's yes everybody know if you live in this little suburb yeah and you live in a two-story house your dad is doing better than the other dads and who only can afford one story right but also adamant about this but then when they would come.
Over I'd be like oh what no we sold that one that was the other house yeah we were like well but you just said it like a week ago I was yeah it's like a second house tough tough week we've had a lot going on but your classmates also believed your father owned American Airlines which I think is interesting that you never corrected them I don't.
Know I think it's interesting because for me it was like all out of insecurity yours was like a story on top of your story that you were like hey it's an act or it's a Well But the irony that you say you doubted whether or not you were good enough there had to have been some thought that crossed my mind like this isn't gonna cut it I'm not gonna be able.
To get what I need by being basic and so it was like I wasn't not proud of it you know it's like it wasn't like I was hiding the reality but I mean it was like I would daydream about future hypothetical possibilities and that I would draw them to present day and act them out if that makes sense yeah when people.
Would ask you because this is a question that I revisit a lot in the book and even just as I've been thinking about those moments where I got to skate back down on that Main Street the street that I grew up on and I would remember people saying you know what do you want to be when you grow up and for me it was I wanted to be the best roller skater in.
The world like that was my dream just like roller skate and be the Olympics all of them yeah um that was like my ultimate goal free Carefree when people would ask your mom like thought you were like a little cave girl wild wild-headed wild and you couldn't like that picture where your tooth's been either knocked out or missing you know if it was a.
Summer day you couldn't find me because I was somewhere on the streets riding my bike or my skate with friends or typically by yourself on those sets by myself which is another thing I need to unpack I'm like why was they always by myself is that is that true I didn't have little running buddies and I had friends in the neighborhood because we.
There were kids everywhere I think I preferred I just kept going so they'd be done skating or they'd be done right in the back I'm like I'll catch you tomorrow there was never an end until I knew okay it's dinner time I gotta you know park it in the garage but when I ask you that question can you go back and say okay are there pieces of Chip.
Carter at six at seven that I wish I could reclaim or do you feel like what you've grown into is something that is more for you looking future rather than backwards I'll say it like this when I think back about my childhood I don't really have this pivotal moment of gosh this is when I did this thing there's got to be.
Something to the fact that I didn't feel like I was enough and I had to stand out there has to be some similarities between my thought about that and your thought for sure I had a story to tell about my two-story house you know and so in so many ways it was not accurate and was not healthy but it was just my effort or my willingness to sort of put.
Myself out there in a way that made other people go that was funny that was fun what you just said it was always a thing I mean you were at our wedding and all my groomsmen stood up for what felt like hours and talked about quote unquote chip stories well my high school crew has those same stories just different circumstances you know this.
Has been like a reoccurring theme in my whole life and so where I feel like at a young age I remember it like it was yesterday I was probably 17 18 months old and I remember realizing like my purpose on this Earth is like sort of like in this genre is in this realm and I wasn't disappointed about that like I wanted to go and pursue that so when you.
Think about entrepreneurship when you think about fearlessness when you think about self-esteem you know these things were sort of built into me even at a young age and so I don't have this real clear thought about going back in time and undoing this thing where I really laid down a part of myself and adopted some other part of myself but to think.
Back about this like moment in time that man had I gone right instead of left boy look how different things would have been I pretty much started in this direction and ended in this direction but there were a million right I do wonder is that is that a personality thing is that a way people process thing because I think for a lot of people they.
Could answer it and there were a few that were like I there's not nothing I love what I've turned into I love what I've become and I think hey that's healthy too like I don't think there's like I don't think everyone has to go back and say I'd reclaim this piece of me I think for you that doesn't even feel like who you are to ask that.
Question to you is kind of you just never thought about how do I go backwards and reflect you know that's just that's not how you process life you're always just moving forward that's why the other day with that Socrates point that an unevaluated life is a life not worth living and I've always been like almost adamantly opposed to that.
Like live it go for it forget the evaluation just do more of it is my thought now I would say I've kind of as I've matured and certainly into my you know 40s I feel like I'm evolving a little and even watching you go through this process with the book I mean it's true for you and I think some people just have an uncanny ability even a.
Six-year-old so as it relates to who you became in your 20s and 30s and some of the insecurities and self-doubt that you struggled with and work through in those kind of pivotal you know decades if you will would you attribute it more to verbal and literal insults that are similar in that way to your point that everybody has a moment that you fell and.
You dropped all your books and you know that's not a race thing that's not a that's not something directly it had nothing to do with this person is different under these circumstances or less than or better than they just tripped and they dropped all their books and gosh that'd be embarrassing no matter who you were versus B my mom is.
Korean and I don't have any friends whose moms are Korean and my skin is dark and my eyes are brown and my hair is black you know yeah which would you attribute because if they're in the prior then I think it's interesting and there's a combination of both your points valid in the sense that everybody.
Has that and everybody can relate but that specific version of that is so unique to you than to obviously minorities or people of color and women in general you know to where you always kind of feel a little like because you've got some boy like me louder and faster and whatever you know meaner and so then you've got a real point in the.
Sense that no this is unique to me in that sense no I the button story is only the first moment I remember caring and so from that because that was like the first day of school so it was moving into school that was a that didn't wait first day of school in the first grade like your first contact with school kindergarten yes so it was like me.
Coming out there you're basically saying you're transitioning from at my house when I show my mom a button my mom thinks my butt that's great and when I go to school and show it to a half dozen kids it's it's interpreted sometimes it's great sometimes and so the moment of the button the reason why I'm not even belittling and I'm just saying we.
All have those button moments where we like you said we fell people were like that was a dumb joke that that's not the pivotal moment it's just the moment I remember first feeling that tinge of like shame or embarrassment leading into that full year of then oh I am actually different being all hyper aware of it sure I think.
The biggest thing is the cover of the book when you take it off you see that six-year-old girl it is that moment of shifting from living out loud to living in her head and caring all of a sudden and at some point all of us start caring at some point you cared that your classmates thought you were wealthy that you had a two-story house I bet at three.
You didn't I bet at four you didn't I bet it's seven you did it maybe at ten you know sure so it's the moment of caring that I am just so distinctly aware of that I'm trying to get back to saying why did you care why and and that's what I'm trying to rewrite not again I don't want to relive it I don't want it's none of that it's just like.
How do you go from that moment and believe something different so that you don't go 40 years believing something that's actually not true that was really I don't think anyone understands the weight of the words when you're six years old those boys did not understand the weight of their words I'm still untangling some of that and I have.
Nothing you know in my mind the the idea of forgiving myself and even them is huge in this but again it's it's I am you don't have to go back to your six-year-old self because I feel like I can't think of anybody that I would need to go back and forgive them but I can think of some people that I could go back and ask their forgiveness for sure.
And I mean same I can do both I I feel like I was a mean girl at times just as long as I was also the receiver of that mean it's like kind of when people say hurt people hurt people I was like oh is this how you do this like I sure and that's even part of that whole journey for me of I know what that felt like why would I ever do that sure.
Um but I do think the bottom line is is it's interesting how I think for you it's a moving forward how do I get stronger how do I get wiser all the things because that's just your mentality your your healthy and whole in that way and I think for me I have to go way back and almost make it a circle of life where it's like okay I'm in my.
Mid-40s how do I connect back to the six-year-old I don't know if I want to you know the 70 year old is gonna be richer the seven-year-old version of me will be richer if I can connect back to that six-year-old and rewrite some of those things that I believe for too long and so that's the journey that that I've been on that I feel like has been so.
Freeing um but also just to take the weight off of even our children of like what do you want like it's always so futurist whatever but it's like how do we really believe in these moments that are right here right now without all the answers um how do we let our children be.
Children longer how do we let them linger longer I also think when you think about what are kids supposed to be I think when you evaluate all these traits about yourself and at 25 you can look back and go huh what are the reoccurring themes in my life then equals I want to do this for a living or you know so I think there is a thing to.
It that gets you there quicker when I as you were talking earlier it was a light bulb moment for me that I've never really that's never really come to me which is why do I love renovation so much I love that before and after Story I love the house that is unassuming or that people are like drive by it don't even notice.
It or it has no potential it's not enough you then go put all the stuff into it and then all of a sudden it becomes this beautiful after moment that hopefully inspires people it's your Cinderella Story the idea that I feel like I found my Lane in unearthing things or or projects that didn't feel like people cared about or didn't see.
The value in well even the irony you do that with houses and of course we know that but back in our early days you would go buy a piece of furniture and do the same thing with this spray paint it bring it back to life you know for sure so there's similar veins in that yeah once you started experimenting with what really you were destined to do those.
Things started really lining up pretty quick but why does that line up it's because I I think I really understand the feeling of showing up and maybe believing hey I'm not enough but wait till I I don't know and so even now as a 44 year old woman I can say after I'd in this book I feel like this odd Fixer-Upper where it's like not.
Outwardly I'm not talking about my looks I'm talking about my soul and my heart and like how I feel about myself sure it's I've I got to uncover and an earth pieces that I needed to bring back to life I needed to restore some parts of myself that I knew were valuable and so when you start tying that to what I get to do in real life for my job it's.
Interesting how parallel that is and that that's probably why I find so much meaning in the work I get to do because it starts kind of personally with me and then I get to see that full representation in a project or in a home
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